The First Great Lie – Atheism | The Second Great Lie – Pornography (Digital Cocaine)

There are two great lies being circulated and believed today. Atheism is the first and foremost lie. While I have no problem with atheists personally, it is preposterous to assert that God does not exist, and then to claim that “I am in a sincere search for truth, and oh, by the way, there’s one area of investigation that is off-limits – God.” Why would anyone assert such a thing, and in effect, walling off an entire field of study that could inform ones search for meaning and truth?

The second great lie that is being swallowed by a culture in moral free fall is pornography and the associated deception it promotes. The belief that a little pornography is harmless actually sets one up to accept the entire package of deceit. “She’s there because she wants to be. Look at how hungry her eyes are; how much she is affirming me as a man.” But in reality, the “she” or “he” is just pixels on a screen or a series of dots on a page, airbrushed and presented as something that will meet our deepest needs of intimacy. She may look hungry for you men, but it’s all a facade.

These beliefs set you up for deception – you start to believe the Lie. Here are the lies about women that pornography tells you (with some help from Sex and Lies, an article by Gene McConnell and Keith Campbell).

Lie # 1: Women are less than human. The women in Playboy magazine are called “bunnies,” making them cute little animals or “playmates,” making them a toy. Porn often refers to women as animals, playthings, or body parts. Some pornography shows only the body and doesn’t show the face at all. The idea that women are real human beings with thoughts and emotions is played down. She’s just a series of body parts.

Lie #2: Women are a “sport.” Some sports magazines have a swimsuit issue. This suggests that women are just some kind of sport. Porn views sex as a game and in a game, you have to win, conquer or score.

Lie #3: Women are property. It’s common to see pictures of the slick car with the sexy girl draped over it. The unspoken message is, “Buy one, and you get them both.” Hard-core porn carries this even further. It displays women like merchandise in a catalogue, exposing them as openly as possible for the customer to look at. It’s not surprising that many young men think that if they have spent some money taking a girl out, they have a right to have sex with her. Porn tells us that women can be bought.

Lie #4: A woman’s value depends on the attractiveness of her body. Overweight or less attractive women are ridiculed in porn. They are called degrading names, simply because they don’t fit into porn’s criteria of the perfect woman. In fact, if someone is attracted to a heavyset woman, porn labels that a fetish, which means sexual obsession or hang-up that isn’t “natural.” Porn doesn’t care about a woman’s mind or personality, only her body.

Lie #5: Women like rape and sexual abuse. “When she says no, she means yes” is a typical porn scenario. Women are shown being raped, fighting and kicking at first, and then starting to like it. Porn eroticizes rape and makes it arousing. Women are shown being tied up, beaten, and humiliated in hundreds of sick ways and finally begging for more. Even while being tortured, the porn actors and actresses have a smile on their face — a look of intense enjoyment. Porn teaches men to enjoy hurting and abusing women for entertainment. Men don’t see them as created in God’s image.

Pornography is a lie people believe. It will not satisfy your sexual drive; it will always ask for more of you. Before long, you will not just have an addiction; the addiction will have you. There are many beautiful wives in Victoria Secret night-ware who fall asleep every night alone because a husband can’t give up his late night pornography habit.

Dr. Victor Cline says that sex and pornography can be a more difficult addiction to break than cocaine. There are five stages of addiction…

1. Early exposure. Most guys who get addicted to porn start early. They see the stuff when they are very young, and it gets its foot in the door. The average age of first exposure is under 10 years of age.

2. Addiction. Later comes addiction. You keep coming back to porn. It becomes a regular part of your life. You’re hooked. You can’t quit.

3. Escalation. After a while, escalation begins. You start to look for more and more graphic porn. You start using porn that would have disgusted you when you started. Now it excites you.

4. Desensitization. Eventually, you start to become numb. Even the most graphic, degrading porn doesn’t excite you anymore. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again but can’t find it.

5. Acting out sexually. At this point, many men make a dangerous jump and start acting out sexually. They move from the paper and plastic and digital images of porn to the real world.

Emily Efurd, a licensed marriage and family counselor who has been working with sex addicts for over a dozen years. Emily offers some bottom line steps to overcoming sex addiction and the lie of pornography:

1. Recognize how you got where you are by examining the small but important choices you have made over time.

2. Confess it all as sin and choose to repent by changing your behavior. Slam the door on your former behaviors.

3. Stop masturbating, which is a type of substance abuse, to pornography. (The brain chemicals activated by arousal and orgasm are a specific chemical substance that can become addictive.) Take all your sexual energy to your spouse.

4. Stop objectifying women as sex objects or body parts and train yourself to see them as real people. For example, look them in the eye and note their eye color; note their hair color. Again, women are image-bearing creations of God. Give them the respect they deserve.

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10 responses to “The First Great Lie – Atheism | The Second Great Lie – Pornography (Digital Cocaine)

  1. >While I have no problem with atheists personally, it is preposterous to assert that God does not exist,

    You seem to be equating positive atheism with atheism. As far as I know, positive atheism requires either some “no god” presupposition, or the acceptance of some “the existence of god is logically inconsistent” argument. I find both to be untenable.

    I deny that there are good reasons to believe in a god of any kind. Perhaps there are reason I have not learned or understood well enough to appreciate its value. Perhaps God exists in the absence of reasons to think he’s there. But the burden of proof is the theists’.

    I don’t believe in God, I find the existence of a god unlike, and the existence of any particular god extremely unlikely. Thus, I am an atheist.

  2. Even if Yahweh did exist (there’s no evidence to suggest he does) and if he is precisely the character described in the Bible I wouldn’t convert to Christianity or Judiasm.

    The god of the Jews commanded them to commit horrible acts, to kill women and children, even those who were still suckling. Genocide is not an attribute worthy of worship. Genocide is not a sign of a loving god, it is a sign of a megolomaniac. People often use Stalin or Mao as an example of how terrible atheism can be (we won’t get into whether it was their atheism that caused it) but right in your own book Yahweh drowns the entire planet save a handful of people. Time and time again your own book proves why the fastest way to atheism is to read the Bible.

  3. 1. Consider all of special revelation, not just the parts you don’t like in trying to understand Yahweh.
    2. It is not immoral for God to hold people accountable for acts of despicable evil, sabotaging the rest of creation and other image-bearers.
    3. Evil leaders do things that bring consequences on innocent people. God is not malicious, but our decisions matter. Human-beings have delegated authority. God set it up this way.
    4. Death is not the end-game you think it is. It is a gateway to an endless beginning.
    5. Just because an innocent party is caught up in judgment does not mean that they are “cast into hell” as so many think.
    6. The Bible is also the fastest way to Christian Theism – when it’s read in its entirety, and the Great Lover is understood; he who must balance his holiness with love, his justice with mercy – He who cannot be inconsistent with Himself.

  4. I think the atheist knows that there is a God, but only tells himself that he doesn’t know.

  5. Atheism is the first and foremost lie. While I have no problem with atheists personally, it is preposterous to assert that God does not exist, and then to claim that “I am in a sincere search for truth, and oh, by the way, there’s one area of investigation that is off-limits – God.” Why would anyone assert such a thing, and in effect, walling off an entire field of study that could inform ones search for meaning and truth?

    …who says this? Which atheists are you aware of who claim that investigation into God’s existence is off-limits? Quick, give me a list so I can go and set them straight.

    I think the atheist knows that there is a God, but only tells himself that he doesn’t know.

    You are wrong.

    And since pornography is apparently ‘evil’ because of the manner in which it debases women, I have nothing to worry about – I just stick with all-male pornograhy. Hurrah!

  6. All atheists assert that there is no God – that’s what atheism means.

    Addiction is addiction, regardless of the object or gender of the fantasy.

  7. “All atheists assert that there is no God – that’s what atheism means.”

    No they don’t, and no it doesn’t. Atheism concerns belief. It is enough to assert that one does not believe that any gods exist for one to be an atheist. Some atheists do assert that there is no God. But that is not what it means. An atheist can either be agnostic (believes there is no god but doesn’t know if there is no god) or gnostic (believes there is no god because he knows that there is no god).

    Clearly, the latter position is easier for you to argue against. But you should not dismiss people who fall into the former as if they don’t exist.

  8. One cannot be both an atheist AND an agnostic. To flip it to theism for a second, utilizing your same logic… It’s like you are saying that a theist can be an “unbelieving believer.” There’s no such thing. The terms are self-contradictory. Either you are or you aren’t. Take your pick, but be true to how the terms are defined.

    From Yahoo Dictionary:

    Atheist: One who disbelieves or denies the existence of God or gods.

    Agnostic: One who believes that it is impossible to know whether there is a God.
    One who is skeptical about the existence of God but does not profess true atheism.
    One who is doubtful or noncommittal about something.

  9. Kris

    Agnostics believe that they cannot KNOW 100%, without a doubt, that God exists. Atheists BELIEVE there is no God. Theists BELIEVE there is a god.

    Any attempt to contrast agnosticism with atheism/theism is like comparing apples with oranges; one deals with knowledge, the other deals with belief. I know that I do not KNOW there is no god, but I BELIEVE that there isn’t one; therefore, agnostic atheist.

    Yes, Mr. Nelson, there are agnostic theists. These are people who have never seen their god face-to-face, and realize that they don’t KNOW that he/she/it exists, but they still believe in him/her/it.

  10. An agnostic is one who believes in God but this God cannot be known. I have never met a true agnostic. This would imply an intense spiritual search in all forms of religions and belief systems, and having exhausted the search, concluded that God cannot be known. I don’t know anyone who has done that. Furthermore, I have never met a true atheist – one who can prove that God does not exist. An atheist is one who does not believe in a god, but he/she can’t prove it, which makes it absolutely ridiculous to assert that He does not exist.

    Again, there’s no such thing as an “unbelieving believer.” How can you believe in a God that you’re not even sure exists? He must exist before we can rightly term it “belief.”

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